i generally shoot the first message, but i've been doing it more and more infrequently nowadays. it seems like it's harder to attract mails as a guy than it is as a girl.
Sending out mail is nice, letting people know I like their comments and wishing them a lovely day. Though receiving messages is lovely because you're either about to make a friend or have a fun story to tell. Or get neither, but I'm optimistic.
Sender more than a receiver here. Not that I want to but have to. Rarely get sent stuff but when I do, shit is peak. It’s mostly very contrast to my little silly small business looking mails.